AHEA...some notes taken from Disciplinology

I enjoyed the main session speakers at AHEA this year, I usually do though!
I'll share my notes and thoughts from Clay Clarkson's talk on Discipline.

Ephesians 6:4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

It seems to be clear in the verse above that you can't separate discipline from instruction, they go hand in hand. Maybe what is missing is the Biblical concept of discipline.

• relationship vs. methodology 

         this one seems to be rather self explanatory....it's all about building relationships with our children instead of being strict disciplinarians, distancing ourselves from them.  (this is one area I totally need to work on)

• process vs. act

          discipline is a process it should not be a one time act.  We are humans, we are going to fail as will our children!  So we need to look at this with the big picture in mind and administer discipline as a way of instructing them in life, not as a punishment every time something wrong is done.

• advocate vs. adversary

          are we cheering our kids on? or are we just waiting for them to screw up so we can "git them"??  It sounds lame when you put it that way, eh?  But how often do we get busy with our own issues that we sometimes overlook thing that go on in our children's lives and how they are coping?  We need to be intimately aware and help them learn how to respond to life's blows and triumphs in a Godly way, instead of only having deep talks with them when there is a problem with their character/attitude. (yeah, gotta work on this one too! I marvel at mom's of many who accomplish this one! Seriously ladies, GOOD WORK!!)

• grace & truth vs. law

          now I thoroughly don't agree with this one at all, as I find this to be an absolute "anti-Torah" take on things.   Mr. Clarkson talked about how Christians live with grace and truth instead of the law of moses....well, that's clearly speaking against the God of the Bible even though that is what many believe (He is a God who doesn't change, so the things in Torah that have "forever" attached to it, still apply!) ....so here are my thoughts on it.

Instead of it being grace and truth vs. law, I believe it should be grace and truth leading us to the law.

What people seem to forget, is that grace and mercy didn't materialize when Yahshua (Jesus) died on the execution stake...all throughout the history of the Tanakh (Old Testament) we see YHVH's mercy and grace extended over and over until He finally had enough and then He disciplined His people.  He was incredibly patient, as the Israelites grumbled just a few days after being delivered in a miraculous way from the Egyptians! Yet instead of crying out to YHVH for water and food, they complained and whined amongst one another and to Moshe (Moses)!!  And even then He STILL provided for them! WOW!  

Then we have the law of Moshe as given by YHVH Himself, simple guidelines in how to live our lives if we want to please Him and receive His blessings.  As we come to know and love YHVH, the God of the Bible, our Creator, as our relationship with Him deepens we will want to please Him and not ourselves, we will want to do what He asks, even commands, with a smile on our faces. (no I don't always get this right either...) 

So as we grow in relationship with our children and extend grace and mercy, they will in turn desire to please us and obey our simple rules of the house.   At least that is how I see it in Scripture, and would like to see it in our house!

Recovering the Way of Life

We are living in a society that does not put any importance in faith. This includes the homeschooling groups! He shared a few frightening polls that were eye-opening! But I don't remember the stats...sorry. We will move on though...lol

3 Priorities of Life on the Path

Direction-Correction-Protection

DIRECTION-moving along the Path

• leading with sympathy vs. strictness
• leading with encouragement vs. guilt
• leading with love vs. neglect
• leading with instruction vs. information

this group spoke volumes to me...in how I was raised and how I'm unintentionally making the same mistakes with my children.  Oh Father, soften my heart to be sympathetic, encouraging, loving and enable me to instruct instead of just inform! Giving the tools of life and showing them how to use them correctly!

CORRECTION-getting back to the Path
It's not just about bad behavior!!

• training with Spiritual discipline-teach them to respond to God

• training with verbal discipline-being careful HOW I say things

Gal6:1Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

Matt 11:29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

 2 Tim 2:24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, ²⁵ in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth,

•  training with behavioral discipline  ie. if you do a job sloppily then it's obvious you need more practice, so you will get to do more of that particular job for extra practice!

• training with physical discipline

Proverbs 22:6  Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Mr. Clarkson shared some insight into this verse, saying that it the word "child" in this sense could easily mean a "teen" and not a young child...and the term "old" simply means an adult.  So in the case of physical discipline it may not actually be talking about young children but young adults.  It was unclear to me this particular point...except that it seems to be a last resort measure.

PROTECTION-staying safe on the Path

• guarding against unhealthy appetites
• guarding against against unwise relationships
• guarding against ungodly media

To me this needs no explanation at all...but if you need a guideline you can do what I do and refer to:

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

 If you have a TV this would be a good verse to print out and tape above the tv...seriously....

Hope you enjoyed the note....if I'm unclear on anything feel free to strike up a conversation in the comments!!
 Shalom!

Some Christian and Health books for sale!

I’m selling these books in hopes to have at least a little bit of spending money at AHEA!!

I’d like $5 for each as they are in new condition, as in not even read…lol  I think I read the first little bit of Messy Spirituality, but the rest are brand new.

Velvet Elvis by Rob Bell

Jesus Wants to Save Christians by Rob Bell

Messy Spirituality by Micheal Yaconelli

God Made Your Body by Jim Burns ages3-5(pure foundations series on sex)

How God Makes Babies by Jim Burns  ages 6-9(pure foundations series on sex)

God Encounters by James and Michal Goll

And I have a series of books by Dr. Peter J. D’Adamo

Live Right 4 Your Type

Eat Right 4 Your Type

Eat Right 4 Your Baby

Cook Right 4 Your Type

As well as 2 little shopping handbooks for Type O and Type A.

Take the bunch for $40 or I can split them up…whatever you like!! I just need them sold!

shipping is extra, but if you live near me I can meet you somewhere!

Thanks for looking!

Lori-Dawn

Happy New Year (Aviv 1, 6011)

I have another blog to share with you all!
http://www.ourwholeheartedfamily.com/blog/?p=1785

I hope you enjoy it! And now I'm off to do a massive Spring Cleaning before Passover!
Shalom!

Ladies, What Do Your Clothes Say About You?

Woe Canada...a more applicable national anthem...

To watch the song being sung by the author click here 

Woe Canada

Woe Canada! Our home on Native land!

False patriot love from many ethnic clans

With breaking hearts we see demise

A weak North gone PC

From far and wide, Woe Canada!

We dropped our guard on thee

Someone save our land, sadly now weak-kneed

Woe Canada, we dropped our guard on thee

Woe Canada, we dropped our guard on thee.

Woe Canada! Where homeland hatreds grow

Old country grudges, and tribal hostilities flow

How clear to us, this sad refrain

From East to West we see

A land of hope being played as a dope

A weak North gone to seed.

(refrain)

Woe Canada! Beneath carbon-tainted skies

No stalwart sons nor gentle maidens rise

Such words make lefties squeam

From East to Western sea

Our own misjudgments on Native land

Our poor North, weak not free

(refrain)

No supreme ruler exists.  To hear a humble prayer

No God, no Allah, no Buddha, no whatever

To guard the land we share

But help us to find, in the mess we now see

A way to turn back, and remember with ease

When we once stood on guard for thee.

(refrain)

by mark.bonokoski@sunmedia.ca

 

Cooking Brownies with Children

Remove teddy bear from oven and preheat oven to 375.  Melt 1 c. margarine in saucepan.  Remove teddy bear from oven and tell Malachi “no, no”.  Add margarine to 2 c. sugar.  Take shortening can away from Malachi and clean cupboards.  Measure 1/3 c. cocoa.  Take shortening can away from Malachi again and bathe cat.  Apply antiseptic and bandages to scratches sustained while removing shortening from cat’s tail.  Assemble 4 eggs, 2 tsp. vanilla, and 1 ½ c. sifted flour.  Take smoldering teddy bear from oven and open all doors and windows for ventilation.  Take telephone away from Malachi and assure party on the line the call was a mistake.  Call operator and attempt to have direct dialed call removed from bill.  Measure 1 tsp. salt, ½ c. nuts and beat all ingredients well.  Let cat out of refrigerator.  Pour mixture into well-greased 9x13 pan.  Bake 25 minutes.  Rescue cat and take razor away from Malachi.  Explain to kids that you have no idea if shaved cats will sunburn.  Throw cat outside while there’s still  time and he’s still able to run away.

Frosting

Mix the following in saucepan:  1 c. sugar, 1 oz unsweetened chocolate, ¼ c. margarine.  Take the darn teddy bear out of the @#$% broiler and throw it away—far away.  Answer the door and meekly explain to nice policeman that you didn’t know Malachi had slipped out of the house and was heading for the street.  Put Malachi in playpen.  Add 1/3 c. milk, dash of salt, and boil, stirring constantly 2 minutes.  Answer door and apologize to neighbor for Malachi having stuck a garden hose in man’s front door mail slot.  Promise to pay for ruined carpet.  Tie Malachi to clothesline.  Remove burned brownies from oven. 

No, this didn't actually happen in our house...but it easily could have! haha

Scripture/Thought for the Week

• ‎1) Is Yeshua (Jesus) the Word in the flesh? (John 14:1)
• 2) Did Yeshua only speak the Father's Word in the Father's authority? (John 12:49)
• 3) Is Yeshua (the Word) the same yesterday, today, and forever? (Hebrews 13:8)
• 4) Is God the Word and can God not change? (John 1:1; Malachi 3:6)
• 5) Is Leviticus 11 and 23 part of the Word of God? 
• 6) Can Leviticus 11 and 23 change? (see questions 1-4)

Challenge question: Does your theology correctly answer yes to questions 1-4 but fail at question number 5-6?
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